When dealing with DHS, foster care, and adoption (yes, even private adoptions as infants) no one wins. It is an impossible situation where everyone loses. Most specifically the kids lose the most. So even on the days that court may “go your way” it is not necessarily going the way that will do the least damage for the children.
Adoption is an amazing and beautiful thing but at the end of the day I will never be my child’s birth parents. I do not care how loved that child is for their entire life it is still a major loss that they have to grapple with for the rest of their lives.
Bottom line I would die for my babies and I will love them with every fiber of my being until my last breathe on this earth. Even with that there is nothing I can do to quell the gapping wound that is left when a child is removed from their families of origin or placed for adoption. They may have all of the love and support they could ever want with their adoptive families. But adoptive families cannot replace biological parents.
Broken Open 